I decided after learning that baby couldn't go anywhere until after the courtcase was finalized which would be March next year at the earliest that I had to ask for him to move onto a carer who could see him through to the end of the case...sooner rather than later as he was becoming very attached and knowing and by the time he left he would be nearing one, I just couldn't pass him over, it would not only break my heart but my children's, I can't bare to see their little faces looking over the social workers shoulder back at me as they walk up the drive.
When I got the call for babycakes I agreed to care for him only for a few months, possibly up until Christmas ONLY IF they knew that the final placement was definitely going to happen then.
In conversations with the social worker (who was very new to the job) I felt that this case very well could be sped up as the Grandma who lived in QLD had his other three siblings and I thought if she was good enough to look after them then it'd be automatic that babycakes go to her where he is with family BUT not to be, Doc's had to check her out..What the ...?
My friend fostered a baby which sounded like the same scenario and eighteen months later he was still with her and no end in sight.
I rang the social worker and explained my grief and we decide that they should find a carer that was able to keep on keeping on and also someone closer to where he was being ferried to 3-4 days a week for access...I told them there was no hurry and I would keep him until they found the right carer who was big and strong and ably bodied to carry our Buddha baby.
Two days later the social worker rang to say they had a lovely carer who was happy to take him ongoing and was available in a few days time...I felt dreadfully guilty about letting him go, he's such a happy beautiful baby and I hate to see babies moved around unnecessarily.
the night befor ehe went I sat to write an email to the social worker to say we would keep him, but then I thought about the needs of my family and myself, I needed to see about my leg ache and to sort out some issues with my dear old dad and his failing health and ongoing mini strokes.
Babycakes went off for an access visit and then was being delivered straight to the new carer afterwards...I hope she is lovely!
After baby left I headed over to my Dad first and sorted him, well sort of, he sadly has had enough of life and is looking forward to moving on...not what I needed to hear at this point but I gather he is old and hasn't much in his life these days so I gave him permissiont to go...poor old man!
I decided not to go to a physio, I went for a therapeutic massage which greatly helped my back and was relaxing.
I went home and there was a message from the foster mum..I rang her back and was relieved after I spoke to her as she is just gorgeous and she lives very close to where access visits take place and babycakes won't be out of the house 5 hours a day...all good!
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