Access and unsettledness

Poor babycakes now has to travel for an extra two hours a day when he has access with his parents...DOC's are considering adding an extra day so his Dad can see him...thats 4 out of 5 days he will be out for 4 plus hours...all too much for a young baby.

On access visits I request that Mum puts him down for a sleep but she objects and I fully understand why but he needs sleep, he needs to be kept in a routine and not be allowed to become a ratbag from being over stimulated and over tired....they get the fun times and I get the screaming.

When we were moving I asked DOC's if they could make his access in the mornings as he sleeps all night and he tends to catnap for 40-60mins a few times before lunch and then he has a long sleep in the afternoon...they got back to me with afternoons fit in better with his Mum as she has to get her methadone...hmmmm!

Not happy with this I emailed to explain the situation and ended it with "this should be about what is best for baby, not for the convenience of Mum" I would imagine that the cae worker wouldn't be too impressed with me but I am advocating whats best for babycakes AND me...I am the one that has to deal with a very crabby and unsettled baby.

the social worker got back to me...her manager agreed and they will now look at morning access visits now for babycakes...they are hoping that Mum agrees and that the baby couriers can work in with that timing...I sure hope they can.